I think I’m reaching the breaking point and that may be because more people are finally standing up and talking about events in their life regarding this. After reading an article on cnn.com about how American Idol has gotten “mean” finally pushed me to write this.
Brace your self parents… wait… here it comes… YOUR KID SUCKS. Yeah really they all do… at something. Now I don’t want to hear “Oh when you have kids you’ll understand.” No I won’t. My kids will not be raised to think that they will be rewarded for wiping their ass right. She comes from a very strong family upbringing of working for what you have, not what you think you’re deserved just because. My wife and I both agree that most of you people are doing a pretty fucked up job because you like the idea of being a parent but not the job that comes with it. Face it. Some things your kids are not good at and someone needs to tell them. Katie Couric can take her “well maybe they just need a hug” and blow it out her ass. Pampering leads to setting this country up to be overtaken by people who don’t give a shit about your feelings.
Being competitive is what helps mold a successful person. You have to know failure before you’ll achieve success. Quit pampering your kids. Quit running to their side if someone calls them a name. Teach them to stand up for themselves. Give them a backbone. You’re a parent first and a friend second. I’m going to break it down into a few areas. Academics, Athletics and Society.
Academics: Your kid is slow at picking up a subject. Don’t blame the teacher, throw a fit and trash the school’s name. Maybe your kid just isn’t that bright. The grading scale for the school has changed. Don’t get all pissy, write to the paper about how it’s unfair and start protests. You tell your child they have to try harder if they want that mark. WORK for it. Running to PTA meetings and being a freak about your child because you cant bare the thought of raising him and “exposing him to the real world” at any age is irresponsible on your part. If they learn to deal with it now it will make life a whole hella easier before someone stuffs them in a locker.
Athletics: Your child can’t hit, run, catch, kick or has no coordination but yet hey, they still deserve a trophy for trying right? Fuck no. Yeah you need to learn the game and you also need to learn that when you fail you don’t get rewarded. Where does the drive come from to be better if they’re rewarded for being mediocre? I played baseball for over 20 years. I have 1 trophy. I admit I wasn’t the best player but why would I try to improve myself if at the end I got a medal or a reward anyways. “Well you just should” is a bullshit answer Dr Phil when you’ve never had a reason to re-enforce it. You’re teaching the kid to be lazy. I heard this morning on the radio how this listener’s 10 yr old is in a basketball league where each child can not score more than 16 points a game or they’re benched. Another caller said that the local youth soccer league has a rule where a team cant score more than 7 goals or they are issued the lose.
Society: This is where the wanna be yuppie nazi soccer moms come in usually. American Idol is an example of what’s to come in the next 10 years and honestly scares the shit out of me to think my child will be exposed to these insecure asses. Your child can’t sing. That’s a fact. Yeah you should encourage them to get better but don’t lie. Each one of those people that go on American Idol know that they will get the brunt truth of the fact. They will be told if they are awful. What should they do? Well they can quit if they want or they can use that to build on. You show up in a pink hat, you’re overweight, you’re obviously tone deaf and you have the voice of someone sucking helium… do you REALLY expect to win? Of course because momma said you’re beautiful. When you get trashed and told you have no talent so you freak.
Parents, quit pretending that the real world is not out there. Quit being clueless and assume that your kid is innocent. Guess what, you’re kids have ways to see what they want on the internet. Yeah your kid.. really uh huh. They’re having *gasp* sex* talks with their friends and in chat rooms but go ahead and believe that’s just homework. Your kids own you.
Quit living in a make believe land that there is no wrong. All it’s doing is delaying the inevitable of exposure to how the world is today. People will pick on you for the dumbest reasons. Learn how to handle the situations. Making them spineless whiney babies isn’t solving anything. I see it in family and friends raising their kids every day and I just shake my head.
I’m no expert but I can see when complete bullshit is going on. Most of the time I sit back and laugh to myself thinking “shit, I shoulda been a shrink because these kids would finance my house in the Bahamas.” Other times it’s “God, you have no idea how fucked up you’re going to become.”
Do us all a favor and quit being naive. Quit believing “the community raises my kid” and for the love of god, get some balls and be a parent.
Oh yeah and “suck it up” doesn’t work either. It only makes kids do the opposite. That phrase has been banned in my house.